We are people too!
Adoptees are not always orphans, foster/state homes are not detention centers. People are so closed minded, even in college. Grow up and learn the facts before you pretend you know everything!
Finally found them. I didn’t think I would ever be able to find them. It’s been 18 years since I’ve left the Philippines.
Adoptee Language Usage
Positive Language Negative Language
Birthparent Real parent
Biological parent Natural parent
Birth child Own child
My child Adopted child; Own child
Born to unmarried parents Illegitimate
Terminate parental rights Give up
Make an adoption plan Give away
To parent To keep
Waiting child Adoptable child; available child
Biological or birthfather Real father
Making contact with Reunion
Parent Adoptive parent
Intercountry adoption Foreign adoption
Adoption triad Adoption triangle
Permission to sign a release Disclosure
Search Track down parents
Child placed for adoption An unwanted child
Court termination Child taken away
Child with special needs Handicapped child
Child from abroad Foreign child
Was adopted Is adopted
A Coconut. Dark coffee colored, strong and an impenetrable outside along with a soft, white, and tender inside. The Coconut is often used as a metaphor describing Filipinos. The brown hard outer shell describes the color of a Filipino’s skin and his or her willingness to survive. The inside is used to describe the infamous hospitality and softness of the Filipino wellbeing. As for the white color, it’s the”Westernized” appeal and ability to assimilate into other cultures so easily. I would consider myself a literal coconut due to my adoption.
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Q:what gave you the idea to organize this site? :)
What inspired me about this site was that a close friend of mine, Lorial Crowder, who is also a Filipino Adoptee had started her own group which is known as the Filipino Adoptees Network (FAN).
I’ve also made many another Asian and non-Asian adoptee friends and we share each other’s experiences and stories with one another. Some of our stories are similar in values and other stories differ.
During my adolescence I always would reflect upon when people would ask me my ethnicity. Answering that I was Filipino, I came to the conclusion that I also had no idea what a Filipino looked like besides whenever I looked in the mirror, nor what the norms of a Filipino family was…
I didn’t learn my entire story or history of what happened before I was adopted until I turned 18. All I knew was that I had a foster family residing in Cebu City, Philippines.
The birth of this group/blog was to allow other Asian adoptees to help complete their story, allow non-adoptees understand the same stereotypes and even adoption stereotypes that adoptees have, and as a blog that provides Socio-cultural and psychological education of whom would like to share their adoption life experiences.
I hope this answered your question and thank you very much for being a loyal follower Emilio and this was a very good question. =)
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